In January of this year many people celebrated the start a new season.
My husband and I were very excited, but exhausted as well. We had only known I was pregnant for about 3 weeks but were already feeling the effects of my being tired and emotionally on edge, he and some friends had moved 80% of our belongings from one place to another on Christmas Eve, and we had just returned from a youth convention in Ohio, followed by an out of town engagement on New Years Eve.
We were drained; mentally, physically, and spiritually.
One day during prayer I was overcome with emotions. I was crying out to the Lord about how I felt like my husband was so consumed with responsibility that he had forgotten about the importance of our relationship. I told the Lord I was hurt and feeling "uncovered" and "Unprotected" as a wife. I knew the Lord would understand and send his gentle but firm correction down on my husband. :)
As I finished and wiped my tears, waiting for the Lord to respond , He spoke this to my spirit.
"What have you done for him?"
The Lord began to show me how he had created me as a woman to nurture, encourage, romance, and express love and compassion. He showed me the areas in which I was lacking. He didnt blame me, He didnt point the finger at me. But he reminded me that I had lost the love and devotion to a simple principle.
Sure I prayed. In fact, if a person called me with a request I would (and still do ) snot and cry and call upon the name of the Lord until I felt a release in my spirit that I had touched the heart of God. But on my husband's behalf I was too caught up in the things I felt he "owed" me to realize that the answer was simple. PRAY. COVER. SPEAK. BELIEVE.
In the beginning of our marriage I used to lay hands on my husband and speak into him. I used to cover him with the word of God on a daily basis. I realized I had lost that initiative.
Since that day in January, I've been taking time out of almost every day to COVER my husband in scripture and prayer. Some days are more difficult than others : ) and some days I just plain dont feel like it. But God, because he is faithful has manifested the benefits of prayer in my marriage in just a short time since that day in January.
There are many seasons to a marriage, and at times we get so caught up in what God is using us to do, or calling us to do that we forget our first ministry is at home. Although our children are a beautiful blessing , our spouses are our fist priority. They are the one whom we have joined in covenant.
Just a simple reminder to pray for your spouse. Just think, if you're not praying for them, there's no guarantee that anyone is.